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On our way. Now can't turn back a lot
of courage to get on the streets.

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I wonder what will happen from now

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and wonder what is happened in the
last few years first year of marriage

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he we got a good start and I remember
coming home from a wonderful honeymoon.

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That was so fortunate for housing problem
was taken care of its mother owned a two

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family house she was a
widow and lived upstairs

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and we were going to live downstairs.

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He had a good job working
the same plan as my dad

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but Dad didn't introduce us
though we met at the church.

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I still haven't forgiven Betty for not
telling me about Pete in our two years of

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courting in gauge when we had come
to know a lot about each other.

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He'd learn to love each other in a way

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that stood the test of
two years' time anyway.

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There we were in our own place place

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that was to be our home least for a while.

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Well we had to unpack both tired.

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Throughout a Dutch is bad. Only
here is die roll your throat.

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Thyself in royal slather while
I shall get the guy right.

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All cup of coffee.

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He's creamed and sugared
exactly to my taste.

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Now choppy my right to master for
even coffee from this day forward

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from this day forward. I have to hold.

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Pete.

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We're going to be so happy together.

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I feel so comfortable with you. I feel
I feel like I can take my shoes off.

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We love you got it all with
me a wonderful time with

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dance too we could always
keep put we have tonight

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from the beginning we were learning to
live together and to love together.

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Learning to adjust different sexual
responses but time doesn't stand still

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and marriage is far more than loving
together and enjoying companionship.

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It's making decisions together

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and we had to learn to plan
this partner the first.

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A morning I was so proud of my man
going out to earn a living for us.

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Pete was so proud of me.
Cooking our first married me.

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Then suddenly. It was time
for Pete to go to work.

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He said he didn't want to go but
he was a responsible married man.

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Now when you marry and have
to adjust to many changes

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and I well we have decided I should
quit my job when we married.

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Maybe I should stay quit my paycheck.

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I still had a job as the
weeks went by ten times I

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regretted that decision to quit my job.

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The one thing I missed those
paychecks and staying home was hard.

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It was an adjustment I had to work out.

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But there were satisfactions
in being a married pair.

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One thing was our partnership in handling
the money conflicts over money can be a

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real problem married

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but we decided together to help each salary
would be spent maybe we didn't always

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agree. But we decided together.

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So our joint decisions on this

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and other problems of home management
helped in my adjustment from a working girl

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to a non employed wife hated
by a little bit of fun.

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Thoughtfulness a partnership flourished.

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And other things besides contributions
to my sense of accomplishment

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and I had a lot to learn
about cooking keeping house

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and sometimes those things can
seem money important and.

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Don't leave me the wife does
appreciate her husband's appreciation

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and of course that works both ways.
I tried to learn about peaks job.

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Sometimes I shared enthusiasm
and there were times

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when I had to help
absorb his frustrations.

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It was all part of the partnership of
course our marriage had its ups and downs.

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They all do but I guess we had worked out
pretty good adjustments on affections

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and our sex life decisions in our Money
Matters adjusting to each other.

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Adjusting to our marriage sort of
showed us how to face these problems

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but on another potential
source of trouble in-laws

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when we first planned to move
into that two family house.

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I thought of all those
mother in law jokes.

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Still they couldn't apply to nice people
like does but there were things like.

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I was planning my first
bridge luncheon honey.

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Jane can come on Thursday with
what she gets before I get in the

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range of this.

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Maybe she wouldn't enjoy playing with a
bunch of kids girls little one is in love

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as she largely young people.

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Of course I asked her changes
to done bringing a fancy cake

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was delicious every Wednesday
and helped make a good party

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but it wasn't my party afterwards.

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Peter said he was glad I had asked

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that you could have seen from upstairs if
something was going on I'd have felt left

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out how did I feel as
if we were living in a

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huge goldfish bowl. I.
Couldn't explain it to Pete.

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But it wasn't all banned Pete's mother

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and I had good times together shopping
for instance I could learn a lot from

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or her experience in getting bargains a
little tips on people special lights

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and decide but one afternoon.

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Pete stopped in up stairs to deliver
packages mother had asked him to pick up

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and it turned into a habit to drop into
his mothers on his way from work two

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or three times a week.

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I didn't mind so much supper being late.

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I kept telling myself but somehow
it seemed on those nights.

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We always got into an argument.

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Sooner

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or later.

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I tried to tell piece how I
failed. But it was no use.

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He'd just get sore

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and make some crack about my family I
thought my family was pretty wonderful.

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Dad NY We're real pals.

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We talked things over about Pete's mother I
mean Dad could understand some good mom.

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We had some good chats
together had Teddy afternoons

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when Pete would play golf.

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It was a joy to see the way Mom and
Dad understood each other centers

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or pated each other's needs. And
times without a word being spoken.

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They had really grown together and
their marriage. Why couldn't we.

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Will in more ways than one.

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It was a long haul and a
cold hard winter. Meanwhile.

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We were still working out other
adjustments together. Little thing.

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My serving never learning to enjoy
it because Pete wanted so much.

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Big things P three allies ing the wife
still likes to go out once in a while

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remembering the anniversary of our
engagement with tickets to a special show he

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knew I'd been wanting to see married
life isn't all Hollywood moonbeams

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and honeysuckle

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but it can be mighty satisfying
at times came spring.

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And my first spring house cleaning.
And. Well it was Pete's mother.

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But it wasn't that she criticize me
early even told me how to do things

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but somehow whatever I did she
did too but in a different way

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and it seemed to me she always
thought her way was better.

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There were so many little situations

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that probably wouldn't have mattered
if we hadn't lived in the same house

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but I felt so awkward. And inferior.

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Married.

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That evening after supper.

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I thought the time seemed right to talk
to Peter about us that suddenly and.

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I. I got a surprise in today's mail.

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Not from another job wonderful job

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but way over in Central City.

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Which talked it over with her to get away.

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There's something really.

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Decisive about the influence of your
parents on our marriage. My parents.

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So this let me all the way
hungry for you get man. Time we.

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Well we've got to talk this thing out.

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You don't know what it's like working
in the same plan as your wife's father.

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Dead like. You piece.
Done so much for you.

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Surely had their I know your dad's
been swell. Try to understand me.

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Means so much to have you
understand. Totally.

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If you feel that way. Pete just
do some of the reasons. Really.

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I mean it's a very important
you. Tell me. Pete.

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Things like. When I got the
promotion in December.

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You said I read it was if you're dead.
I mean praising me to the boss and.

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I felt as though I fired that race
myself with stories of inference like

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that didn't help me
with the other fellows.

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When you appreciated your
dad's efforts. I wanted.

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I wanted you to appreciate mine.

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How could I have been two people in a head

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when you carried our family troubles here
folks and spoke of their house as home

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and you compared us with
your folks. I understand.

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Come to think of it. Peter. I suppose
part of me never really did get married.

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How could I really build our marriage
with part of me wanted them to approve

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everything I did.

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Gosh what a difference when you see
the other fellow's point of view

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when you recognize that you are
not only one with problems.

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We did have to face the other issues. It
was hard telling Pete about his mother.

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We wouldn't think of
it is a counterattack.

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He tried to understand not
trying to be fair about it.

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I could see that I'd been on
the defensive had understood

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that a widow might sort of meet a
man around the house and Pete say

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that he needed

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but both of us needed to grow up more
needed to grow away from our parents a bit

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more and we've grown up a lot just a knife

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that we don't can talk our troubles out this
way really growing up growing together.

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Sure helps a lot when you can bring things
out in the open talk him out together.

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How do you feel about central city.

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I would like to get away with
it which are the of my home.

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That it is a big change

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and maybe we don't need to run away from
potential wouldn't be running away.

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You really want that new job.

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That's what we want.

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It's a big change to free

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and new home church new adjustments in
living there be other problems ahead.

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The bigger problems will be the
two of us working together.

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Ione we were given his talking to
the conductor try to get pulled out

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accommodations and I got the.

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Disease or saw for aid that just
what am I doing on the seat.

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Pete

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and I will both miss our folks all of them
the grandmothers would have made good

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babysitters. But for Pete's job takes
his even back to our home town.

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I know we'll work things
out together as partners.